The previous self talk mini series article in the my brilliant kidz re-programming series discussed how to create a personal self talk list, using an example. This is part 3 of the self talk mini series and discusses how now use this. This will complete the program.
How to implement the Self Talk program
You now need to keep the list with you at all times – in your pocket, wallet, handbag, dairy….
Next you need to earmark daily times when to read this list – I would suggest when you wake up so that it is the first thoughts in your mind of the day, and just before bed, so that it is the last thought before you sleep, plus any time during day to reinforce.
Next you need to read or replay this list. There are 2 ways you can do this -
- You can record on an MP3/ipod and replay. This is more effective if you record someone else’s voice – someone you respect
- Or read the list to yourself slowly & aloud – I find this is the most effective way. You can read this list 1-3 times. The point here is not too much that your brain will start to gloss over this. I normally read once, sometimes twice, but maybe read 3 times a day – morning, lunch, bed.
Next, read the power words more slowly and imagine or feel that characteristic inside you – calm, assured, powerful. These words are powerful reinforcers and help to support the self talk list indirectly by creating an emotional mindset to make your self talk sit more easily and ‘dissolve’ better into your brain.
Next you will need to use the technique of visualisation either as you are reading or afterwards. As you are reading visualise those things happening in your mind. Create a scene in your mind and repeat the same scene each time you read.
Now you want to add an extra line – your target date at the end to your self talk list -
“I will achieve by 31 Dec xxxx”.
If you have never done this before – you will naturally feel shyness, embarrassed or awkward. My tips to overcome these are:
- Do in private
- Once done – will get easier
- Make it a habit by repeating it
- Make sure desires and changes are powerful enough motivators. If they are not, then they are probably not the right ones, or you have not yet appreciated the impact of Self Talk and are not yet ready to try it.
You may also find that the novelty may wear off and feel stale. My suggestion is to keep a record or track of any small changes in your habits, thoughts etc in your daily log or diary.
And that’s it!
To summarise
- Self talk is a useful and powerful tool to ‘re-programme’ yourself
- You need to track what you do / actions /habits ahead of making your list
- Then create a self talk list
- Implement – read (or record and replay) at least twice a day
- Keep a track of your habits etc, look for small changes – these are small wins and are highly motivating.
In the next set of articles, we will be discussing how this can be applied to your kids.
